Questions About Hiring a Coach
How does coaching differ from therapy?
Therapy focuses on understanding the past. Most of the discussion and energy is on what has happened; what happened last week, last month, five years ago…and really understanding it. Coaching focus on the future, while acknowledging the past. Coaches believe there are certain times with therapy is necessary, like when a person isn’t able to acknowledge and accept their past, but feel once one can do that, it’s important to focus energy on moving forward. Coaches offer tools, exercises and mental-frameworks that help one understand their own inner power and ability to move forward, not resting on what was, but what can be. In addition, therapy tends to have no end point, but coaching has a specified timeframe with a specified end point, or a goal of what would like to be accomplished within a certain period of time. That timeframe might be 3 months to one year, and coachee and coach can always agree to extend the coaching, but coaching typically does not stretch beyond a two year engagement.
What kinds of people hire a coach?
All kinds! People who hire coaches believe there are areas of their life that are not yet optimal, that can feel better, but they haven’t been able to make that happen on their own. They also may have a sense that something is missing and they feel lost or stuck on how to figure out what “it” is. People who seek out coaches want to move forward in their life, now. Are tired of feeling lost, stuck or unhappy and are ready and open for help.
Do coaches give advice? Tell you what to do?
No, coaches do not tell you what to do. Coaches help you see what you can’t so you can uncover the answer on your own. Coaches recognize that there is value in mentoring or giving advice, but find that it is not nearly as powerful as helping the coachee problem solve on their own. Coaches believe that 1) people know the right answer and 2) by clearing mental obstacles and limiting beliefs, coaching can build the confidence and know-how to access our creative problem solving skills. We believe this approach of guiding, not telling, is the most powerful road to lasting transformational change.
How do you know if a coach is a good match for you?
You’ll feel it. A coach is there to create a safe and courageous space for you to do your inner work. Is this someone who you want to have listen to you and witness you and be your champion? It doesn’t matter if a coach lives in your city, lives a similar lifestyle, or has a similar background. Your coach isn’t giving you advice. He or she is helping you develop the skills you need to thrive, on your own. Select a coach you feel drawn to and give it a try.
How do coaches become coaches? What does it mean to be a certified coach?
Since anyone can call himself/herself a coach, it can be helpful to know that your coach has been trained in a way that meets the standards of a large governing body of coaches. The International Coach Federation (ICF) was founded in 1995 as a non-profit organization for fellow coaches to support each other and grow the profession. The ICF accredits coach training programs that meet its rigorous standards. A “certified coach” completed his/her training through an ICF-accredited programs. Your coach may have gone even further and met the training requirements and administrative demands to earn an individual credential through ICF. Individual credentials recognized by ICF are: Associate
I don’t have any major issues. Why would I want to work with a coach?
Coaching helps you see the unlimited potential for your life. You can have better relationships, better work environment, respond better in challenging situations, find peace when in chaos and overall realize that every area of your life can be 10x better, even when it feels ok. Often people who hire coaches are trying to get out of survival mode and want to feel better, but after a few months of coaching realize there is way more opportunity and a new level of happiness they didn’t even see before. Coaching raises the bar on your own life.
What are the different coaching styles?
To some degree, there are as many coaching styles as there are coaches. Some of the major coaching styles are Holistic, Zen / Mindfulness, Vision, and Solution-focused.
Holistic – coach looks at the client as a whole person (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual)
Zen / Mindfulness – coach utilizes guided meditation
Vision – coach encourages the client to visualize what he/she seeks to achieve, create, or experience in the future
Solution-focused – coach encourages the client to define clear goals, a path to get there, and to consider what happens once the goal is achieved
There is definitely overlap among styles, and your coach might use a blend of styles based on what’s happening in a particular moment. Whether your coach is “direct,” “tough,” or “warm and fuzzy,” you deserve a coach who is a very, very good listener…and that’s true across all styles.
How can I ensure that we have a successful coaching relationship?
You and your coach will talk about what each of you needs in order to have a successful coaching relationship…and those needs are allowed to change! In the meantime, just be open, ready, and willing to look inside and take responsibility for your choices. Your job isn’t to please your coach – your job is to be open, real, and honest about what you’re thinking and feeling. Trust your coach to support your growth and discovery through powerful questions and exercises.
I really want a coach, but it's the money...
It feels like you don’t have enough money, but in our experience, it’s never about the money. Money is a tool and we can choose how to activate it. When you choose to put money toward yourself, you decide that you’re ready to be coached and to uplevel your life.
We have found that coaching works best when the cost feels a little uncomfortable, but doable. This commands people to show up and really lean into the coaching, the possibility, and change. Just like any big changes in life, you’ve got to want it to make it happen. And committing money is part of it.
I'm not sure if I need a coach, a retreat, a therapist or just meditation. How do I know?
That’s a great question. Here’s our take:
Coaching: work 1:1 ongoing with a set timeframe and goal that you’d like accomplished. You are ready and almost anxious to move forward and create positive change in your life.
Retreat: you need some time to self-reflect, to push the pause button, and recharge. The results are after short-lived, but sometimes you just need a little pick me up and some time being around great people (great way to meet awesome folks in the same headspace you’re in)
Therapist: you find yourself mentally going back to something in your past, over and over, and you feel you can’t make sense of it or are still very bothered by it. You need to heal this trauma, come to terms with it, so you can move on.
Meditation/Yoga: great practices to incorporate into everyday life to keep the ch’i in your body moving and to help add peace to your mind so you can better respond to live events by staying more centered and grounded. Often meditation and yoga accompany any one of the above. Often, however, neither produces transformational life change on their own.
Questions About How Collective Gain Works
How do I get started?
Browse the gallery of coaches select those you are drawn to. Read their profile, watch their video, check out their testimonials…and if you have a hunch they can help you, book at 30 or 60-minute session by selecting a time on their calendar.
How do you meet with the coach? In-person or virtual?
Collective Gain coaches work virtually, either via video conference (Zoom) or by telephone. This optimizes flexibility to meet you at times that work for you while fitting in with modern life. It’s also great that you can take your coach with you when you travel.
I found a coach I like, now what?
If you found a coach you’d like it’s time to set up your coaching engagement. Just like any sports coach, one session is great but won’t get you to your fullest potential. Select a 5- session package to continue to get a feel for coaching or purchase our 90-days of support package to get full support – SOS calls, email support and accountability check-ins. This is where the magic really begins to unfold.
What if I want more than 90-days of support?
All our coaches offer custom coaching packages. First book a 60-minute call with a coach of your choice, and then if you feel it’s a match, ask what they offer for 6 or 12-month programs. We highly recommend a 6-month custom coaching program, it’s worked for us and continues to be the most effective coaching experience.
How were these coaches selected to be part of Collective Gain?
Every coach on Collective Gain had an extensive interview process. First, they had to be referred by an advisor to trusted contact of Collective Gain. Then, they were interviewed in depth about their coaching practice, methods, journey, and intent behind coaching via video conference. Lastly, they filled out an application that gave a full 360 view of their coaching business, why they coach, how their packages are structured and what inspires them. Through this process, we scanned for intent, passion, professionalism as well as used our gut instinct for authenticity.
What if I don't like my coach after we get started?
Coaches want to be in a coaching relationship with people who are committed and showing up in each session. If you aren’t liking something about your coaching relationship, tell your coach. Your coach works for you, they want to serve you as best they can so you see the transformation you invested in. If they feel they cannot help you as need, you can switch to a new coach on Collective Gain to complete any remaining sessions. We are here to make sure you have the best experience and get clear on who you are and why you’re here.
How do I get my company to sponsor my coaching?
Connect our Founder (Lizzie@collectivegain.com) with your HR or Benefits team and we can present them with our corporate program. It includes in-house events and 1:1 company-sponsored coaching. Some of the most innovative and forward-thinking companies are investing in coaching because it’s shown to deliver 7x on the initial investment.