In this podcast episode, I’m taking a deep look at what process means, and how embracing process in life can be a game changer for you as a Type-A, go-getter professional. I’ll be exploring how you can say yes to your own process, and how to embrace that the process is non-linear, and how you can have a bigger understanding of the process that occurs in your life.
There’s an interesting thing that I’ve noticed about life, when you say yes to something in any given moment (a job, a partner, a habit), you say yes to a whole process, without having an idea of what’s to come. It takes time to fully see how a job, a relationship, or your life will unfold.
Just like anything in life, we like to believe that the moment something starts, that it is set in stone, that we have an idea or we get married to someone or we start a job, and the way it is in that moment when we said yes is the way it’s going to be, and that really just isn’t true.
This is because life is a process, and everything and everyone in life is also in their own process of growth and change.
I want us to look at our lives, our work, our relationships as an unfolding process that’s going to lead us to different types of experiences. When we have that desire to rush the process and we get impatient, it’s often not because we so badly want the result, it is because we’re in some sort of fear. We’re in fear that what we want is never going to happen: a relationship, a habit, a life event.
The solution to breaking free from that fear is to allow for self-compassion if you’re in a place of wishing things would happen right now (instead of allowing them to unfold in your life). Another way to step aside from the grips of fear is to look to the natural world for an example of how change and process happen: fruit on a tree doesn’t happen overnight. It takes a whole process of things to create fruit, first a seed, then a sapling, then a tree, then flowers, bees, and growth.
It’s difficult to see where you are on the path of growth. Sometimes the thing you most desire is just one step away, and sometimes you have several experiences you need to go through before you arrive at the thing you hope will happen.
My invitation for you, if you are questioning where you are in your process, is to lean into the experiences and the events that are happening right now. Have faith that they are leading you right to where you should be, and that you are in process right now. While nothing can help rush a process along (which can be so frustrating for Type A people), fighting, procrastinating or delaying your process can slow it down.
If you take away anything from this podcast today, embrace self-compassion for yourself while you’re in the process, and have faith that life is unfolding for you. When there’s an opening, you have a choice to step forward into the processes, knowing that life has been there helping you all along.